This is very true David. I have also noticed how many times I am choosing to distract myself with food or television, Procrastination, or falling into negative unconscious patterns to avoiding seeing my own frightened parts. It opened up a large frightened part within myself that feels I am useless, and taking up space. My FP’s hold that story to be true about myself. I really felt the pain of that FP and released it in that moment through my tears. I am now looking at that moment from a loving perspective, seeing it as a part of myself that needs to be looked at and loved and healed.
When you felt the opportunity to feel, where did you feel it, and what did that moment reveal to you?

Luz,

Thank you for this perspective that is so true for me as well.

Love,
Soula.

Dear Joan,
Thank you for your sharing. I feel tears of joy from the hope which I find in your writing.
Since my family moved back home in January, I have stopped going to the gym and have been overeating. My clothing feel tight and my fps have been responding with judgement and harshness to myself.
In writing this, I can see the blame which another fp places on my family for needing to moving back. I realize that I can take responsibility for myself. in a loving way. I feel relief which I am not sure if it is from a loving part or frightened part. I feel the frightened part-the lump in my throat and tightness in my chest. This feels familiar, like a self worth fp. Another fp thinks I will not ever learn how to live from my loving parts. I will start now, by challenging a fp which is afraid of judgement and wants to delete this post. As I make the decision to post this, the knot in throat and tightness in my chest are fading. I feel my jaw relaxing and gratitude. immense gratitude. Thank you for your spiritual partnership.
Love, Jaye

Hi Joan and Jaye,
I have had an addiction to alcohol which I used to stay numb. Through the process of creating authentic power I have been excavating the layers/roots my frightened parts didn’t want to see and feel. Self judgment and unworthiness are the core of what I found. What a powerful opportunity you have here to go deep and pull up the roots of your addictions, actions. What are your roots?
With love… Cheryl

I’m fighting the same battle with too many sweets and snacks. I recently retired and have too much free time to hit the refrigerator. Somehow we have to so something constructive to break these addictions and heal our inner selves. Any suggestions that have worked for any of you?

Hi John R,
I continue to find feeling what’s under the desire/compulsion to eat, drink, etc. to take me to the roots of the addiction. What is it I don’t want to feel? Unworthiness was certainly at the root. What don’t you want feel?
With love… Cheryl

Hi John R,
I sure relate to staying busy, busy. Now I consciously take more time to be still and aware. Aware of my surroundings, notice what I’m feeling in my body, what my thoughts are. It grounds and opens me. What do you feel in your body when you are still? With love… Cheryl