Hi Kristen, I’m sitting here trying to figure out how to answer your questions. They are quite helpful for me to consider, as there are certainly familiar frightened parts involved, but I am also aware of pain that I have not experienced before. Having a new partner, especially one of I have committed to in the form of marriage, is a new experience to me. However, my intuition spoke to me before the actual wedding that this was going to be a rough road. Shortly after getting engaged, things started to change for the worse. I learned of some traumatic experiences she had been through that I did not previously understand in full. My loving parts said, “No problem, I am here to help you and we can overcome anything.” My frightened parts said, “Oh crap, run.” Those are familiar thoughts to me, so I decided not to cancel the wedding. My heart and soul do want to help and bring love/harmony to others. But at times I wonder whether this marriage was the right thing for me, given that I wasn’t fully aware of the significant issues at hand until shortly before the actual ceremony.

That’s why it helps to hear from all of you. Your stories of seeking and listening to intuition are helping me “separate the wheat from the chaff.” Meaning- it’s helping me hear when my intuition is speaking to me and not to get it confused with a frightened part.

Right now, it feels like I’m getting mixed feedback from the Universe. Kinda like, “well, hold on just a little longer.” I’m aware there are frightened parts that want me to leave (this isn’t healthy, you can do better), but there are also frightened parts that want me to stay (the dishonor of a divorce… of making such a big mistake, of letting down my family). I also have loving parts that want to heal such frightened parts. It’s all a bit confusing to be honest.

So I’m setting my intent to meditate or put aside a specific time to connect with the Universe (like you suggested Shane), to scan my energy centers, and to set a positive/loving intent for the day. That seems like a good step to take.

Thank you everyone.

Hi everyone, I wanted to share a thought on intuition I’ve been struggling with lately. I have been experiencing a lot of pain in my new marriage, enough to make me question whether it is healthy to continue- there were some issues that arose that I didn’t foresee. I have been considering leaving the relationship, both due to frightened parts that want to run and are active, and also from loving parts that want to support my health. However, this discussion on intuition has really helped me remember something: when I decided to get married, people asked, “how did you know she was the one?” I would respond, “I had a strong intuition that she was the one to be in my life.” Yes, there was a romantic attraction to her, but my intuition spoke to me that this was the decision to make… the road to take.

So, as I sat here thinking about intuition and heard Gary say that our intuition isn’t there to help you find your missing keys, it’s there to help you grow spiritually, I realize that this relationship I entered into is for my growth during this time on the Earth-school. This is my opportunity to face frightened parts and learn to come from my most loving parts.

It brings a calm to my body when I think, “I made this decision thanks to an intuition and therefore I’m on the right path… the path to growth and exploration, and I’m supported by the Universe because I listened to my intuition.”

I feel good now, but I know my frightened parts will become very active again when we have our next power struggle or I’m triggered by her frightened parts. So, now that I feel supported by the Universe, I’d also love to hear if you guys have any advice on how to stay in touch with your intuition, especially when your frightened parts are active.

It feels so natural and wonderful when I’m in touch with my intuition- I’m operating at 100%… so I’d love to hear how you keep that channel open, even in difficult times.

Thanks 🙂 –Rob