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Posted 11 years ago
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Hi Catherine, It is so wonderful that you are committed to “loving the triggers” no matter what. I look forward to continuing this discussion or others with you. I will not be able to be at the “Journey” this year, but I will be there in spirit! Have a wonderful time at the Journey! Much Love, |
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Posted 11 years ago
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Hello Catherine, Thank you for your support in helping me continue to challenge my FP’s and for your own sharing as well. The reaction – “sensations” in my body when someone is behaving as though they are “entitled” is strong pressure in my head and pressure and contractions in my throat. I believe this is due to having another FP that feels powerless and often had the perception her voice was not heard or dismissed. The thoughts are “How arrogant of you,” “Who do you think you are?” “You aren’t more special than anyone else.” And often I will be judging myself as I’m having these thoughts. In the past I would contract more and more and feel overwhelmed and another FP would tell me I was horrible for having all of these negative thoughts. More recently, I’m more able to immediately shift and think “Okay, you’re triggered, this is something of yours to deal with regardless of the behavior of the other person” and sometimes I can also think “That person is in a frightened part of her/himself…. that is not her/his soul.” I challenge the FP’s by recognizing them as FP’s and that it is something I have to work on inside myself (not externally) and shift to more loving thoughts and actions. I also struggle with the FP of wanting to be “a pleaser.” I have challenged it often but it is a big one for me. I would also like to support you in challenging your FP’s. It is wonderful that you are aware of your FP of wanting to please and that you have an awareness of where you feel the emotions in your body. What other FP’s arise when someone appears to be authoritative and controlling (in addition to wanting to please and feelings of powerlessness)? What thoughts came to you as you felt anger towards your colleague? What other loving parts can you apply to challenge the FP’s of “wanting to please” and “feelings of powerlessnes.” Thanks for your response and your sharing. Much Love, |
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Posted 11 years ago
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Stephanie, it is wonderful how committed you are to challenging your FP’s. You mentioned you are proud of the work you’ve done so far (that is a loving part) – make sure to recognize your loving parts to help you challenge and cope with the FP’s. I agree that your husband has been your teacher even though your interactions with him have been painful. Do you think that him not validating all of your spiritual growth can give you a opportunity to validate yourself instead of waiting for someone else’s validation. What triggers the feelings of being unlovable? What loving part can challenge that FP? Also, what FP is triggering the “wanting to please?” What emotions and sensations are you feeling in your body as you continue to challenge your FP’s? Courageous work Stephanie! Much Love, |
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Posted 11 years ago
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Stephanie, this is a wonderful realization and remember to also look at your courage as a “Loving Part.” I don’t want to get into “advice mode” but to help you keep challenging your FP’s. Where do you feel the FP’s in your body? What are the obsessive thoughts? Can you invite your husband to talk beyond texting to provide opportunities to be spiritual partners and challenge the FP to “always be right.” Can you practice challenging this FP with everyone you come into contact with daily even if you can’t with your husband? Are you attached to any outcomes because of the fear of losing him or can you commit yourself to challenge your FP’s regardless of the outcome. Remember to ask the universe for intuition about which “loving parts” can challenge your FP’s. Much Love, |
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Posted 12 years ago
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Pamela, Yes, I plan to continue posting on this community board and I’d like to continue connecting with you as well! Love, |
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Posted 12 years ago
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Thank you for your support Pam. I’m glad that cultivating your LP’s is diminishing the “grip” of your FP’s. And I agree that the more we challenge are our FP’s the more loving energy will be on the planet. Love, Berta |
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Posted 12 years ago
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Kristen, Pamela & Rebecca, Thank you for sharing your postings. I agree with Pamela’s words about Kristen’s sharing. Kristen, I’m inspired by your courage to continue to create authentic power and I was reminded that relationships are there to help us grow and they will bring up a lot of FP’s and they are gifts to help us grow. I sometimes forget that and forget that conflict itself is not a reason to run away from a relationship but instead to examine and heal your FP’s. Also, what had a profound impact on me is the reminder that when you heal a FP or several FP’s you can have more compassion for yourself and be present and of support to someone else’s FP’s like that of your client. And Rebecca, your realization that you’ve been avoiding several FP’s your whole life to avoid suffering only caused suffering is very powerful. The Universe “had your back” even in that realization. Much Love, |
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Posted 12 years ago
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Thank you for your support Pamela. Namaste, |
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Posted 12 years ago
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That’s so wonderful Rhea! When I asked you the question I was actually wondering if you felt any loving parts towards yourself for all your courage in following and applying the spiritual guidelines, but being able to challenge judgement of another and seeing their FP’s is loving yourself also. In response to your question. There are days I am able to follow the Guidelines with a lot of success and other days my FP’s are so active that I just work on not judging myself and say “Tomorrow is another day.” One day at a time, actually more like one moment at a time… xxoo, Berta |
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Posted 12 years ago
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Thank you Joanne and Berta for the support, and Joanne, thank you for the question… it got me thinking. On the surface, “asserting my needs” in this situation just feels like asserting my need to have a reasonable request taken care of, but digging deeper, it is asserting my need to be listened to and respected. And also as Soula mentioned I think about wanting to be in my integrity and that when I don’t assert my needs I’m not in my integrity, but as Soula also stated it’s difficult to tell sometimes if my intentions are coming from a loving place or a FP. Much Love to You Both, Berta |
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Posted 12 years ago
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Rhea, you are really using your courage and really applying the Spiritual Partnership Guidelines. I was wondering in your process of recognizing your intentions and your frightened parts (and experiencing the pain of it) since it’s been about 5 weeks or so were you also able to experience loving parts in changing your past relationship dynamics/patterns at work? Much Love, Berta (Spiritual Partner) |
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Posted 12 years ago
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Hi Brenda, It’s so good to hear from you. It was my first call too. I wasn’t able to participate in the first 3 calls and so I had even more fearful parts coming up to participate in today’s call since it had been some time since I connected. I, too am grateful for Gary and Linda authentic love and this entire community. Namaste. |