Hi Eric,

I am not sure I completely understand how to heal a frightened part. I will attempt to answer from my experience.

When our frightened parts get triggered from whatever situation we get plugged into a thought/belief that in turn is a part of emotional energy. This energy has been mostly fear and few times sorrow for me. I usually can get to a thought/belief that is causing me a lot of pain. For example this could be a belief that people who lie are trying to take advantage of me.

One of the spiritual partners that I met here has introduced me to the The Work by Byron Katie. I find it very useful for turning around some of these thoughts.

The first step is
I will try to answer for this question Am I being taken advantage of when people are lying to me? I

Is this true? This thought or belief-You answer yes or no as best as you can. For me mostly yes

How do you feel with this thought or belief-I will feel uncomfortable in my stomach.
Who would you be without this thought- I would be happier and freer
Turn around- I am not being taken advantage of when people lie to me.(I have simplified this for ease)

When I do this with each belief I simply get lighter. For me this helps deal with a frightened part makes it less intense. I am also realizing how much pain it causes me when I belives these thoughts. Just questioning their truth and feeling the pain of the thought and the freedom from the thought helps me choose what I would rather believe.

I hope this helps.

Thank you

Peace and Love
Radhika

Hi Eric,

I agree with Pam. Acting from FPS definitely creates more distance and pain. However compassion doesnt mean allowing lies or verbal abuse. I come from similiar family background. I usually avoid conflict by pleasing others. That means I give them what they want in order to avoid conflict. I am not in my integrity at that time.So how do we differentiate between the two. I think the difference is in your intention. What do you want to achieve? I let the intention tell me what to do. You will find a way to deal with the situation. In the past in situations where my words even if true would cause harm I have chosen to be silent but not please others or give what they want. It is always not easy. At times I have given in to my old patterns.

I hope this helps.
Peace and love
Radhika

Hi Pam and Eric,

I appreciate your insight and kindness. I am feeling better since the last 2 days. In the depth of this fear I did feel helpless. In that helplessness my intuition suggested me to surrender to a higher power. I didnt realize it was my intuition at that time. This now resonates and validates what Pam has said.

Thank you

Peace and love

Radhika

Hi Kelley,

What an absolutely beautiful poem. I stumbled upon this when I was browsing. You must have been in a woderful space to write this. Thank you for sharing this.

With peace and love
Radhika

Hi Sundar,

I will attempt to answer your question with my limited understanding. I am aware that this question is extremely complicated and likely has different layers to it.

To keep it as simple as possible lets start with the concept that energy can neither be created or destroyed it is only transformed. Hence every thought-if you consider it to be energy which I do will have to have an effect. So do all thoughts have the same effect? Do all actions have the same effect? Do all intentions have the same effect?

What influences an effect-which I call karma (consequence to an action in the past) For example I cook dinner. Will it be the same if I cook dinner with peaceful loving intentions versus stressful angry emotions. I have done this in the past when my awareness was identified with emotions completely it doesnt work out exactly the same.

Hence for this action-the possible results vary depending on my awareness at the moment, my thoughts, my emotions and my consequent actions. I am convinced that all thoughts have consequences. The consequences will vary depending on how identified your awareness is with thought/emotion/action. For example in the above example with my colleague if I have negative thoughts but I am aware of them and I dont act on them the effect has not spilled into others lives. Let say I am not identified with these thoughts even though they exist (lets say residual energy from the past- I had thought these thoughts in the past)I respond to him not react. For example he says something judgemental-instead of reacting and saying something inappropriate I maintain my peace and say what would be appropriate at that time. I have completely changed this interaction. The energy of the interaction is completely different and consequence is completely different.

There are also other layers to the same interaction. What if my colleague is unusually good mood and he is not judgemental. Or what if another colleague walks in at that moment. Now you have different energy in that mix. What if something bad has happened that day in the world-it would change every bodys mood. With the Connecticut tragedy I saw people at work including myself sad/depressed for an entire week. What if me or my colleague was physically sick that day. So many permutations and combinations with different results.

Let say I dont want to create any consequences. I stay home and do nothing-there is a certain vibration and still a consequence. Similiarly I sit and meditate with peaceful loving intentions at home. I am still creating. What if I am unconcious- i think I am still creating-my physcial condition has effected the people around me. If you exist you create. There is no getting out of it. We can take this concept a little furthur plants, animals, babies,kids and even inanimate surroundings are creating. We get a different feeling and vibration when we look at the ocean versus desert.

If you exist you create. If you are aware as Gary said you create conciously and can choose the consequences. Does that mean overnight i am creating out of love? No absolutely not. The universe is more compplicated than that. Have I applied these concepts in daily life? Can I feel this as I go? As I go deeper i believe i can create more lovingly. More and more layers to it. Am I creating at the same level as someone who has applied these concepts for the last 10 years. Most likely not.

Regardless of where we are in this journey-we are responsible for the consequences big and small. We are creating conciously or unconciously with karmic effects.

Yes this is the book -The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A Singer.

Peace and love

Radhika

Hi Spiritual Partners,

I have been following this thread for a while. This is a very interesting dicussion. My understanding is that some of us come to the space or seat of the soul in different paths. One path is analytical-using our mind and thinking this through. Sundar I just wanted to point out that there may be an answer to your question which is beyond the mind. This has been a very difficult block for me for a while. If I may suggest who is asking this question? Who wants to know the answer? WHo wants the answer and why he wants the answer might help?

Are we thoughts? Are we the awareness watching the thoughts? If we are the awareness watching the thoughts engaging the mind can keep us busy for a while and continue our structure of the mind. THis directly relates to what Kelly and Pam were pointing to the heart versus mind?

I personally couldnt understand the difference between the heart,mind (thoughts)emotions and feelings until this course. Where am I in all this mix? Where is my awareness focusing on? I seem to take on the colour of whatever I am focusing on. That may be at that moment I am asking my kids to eat dinner or be stressed about something at work? When I identify my self with any particular situation I am completely identified and I disappear? I take on the choices of whatever my personality is feeling? I am just beginning to understand that unless I am aware and have a little seperation between all thoughts (intentions)-emotions-actions I will not be able to make clear sensible actions-which inturn lead to loving consequences.

So I am proposing that in thislineup of thought-emotion-feeling-action-consequence there is an initial space. My perception is that is awareness or consciousness.
So space (awareness or conciousness that which is aware of these things)-thought-emotion-feeling-discomfort or comfort-action-consequence. We could catch ourselves at any of these stages. Depending on which stage we are at-I beleve the consequences are different.

Please forgive me if I had hurt anyones feelings.

Wishing everyone peace and love.

Radhika