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Posted 11 years ago

I once asked the facilitator of a four month self-discovery retreat I attended; “What if I discover I am not talented enough to live my passion?” She answered “Do it anyway.” And then she said “If you stay on the achievement highway, you’ll never be enough.”So here is my renewed intention to “loosen my white-knuckled grip on life’s steering wheel”, step off the achievement highway, and pay attention to all that is unresolved in my heart. To live the questions, before living the answers, and to live passionately, even though an fp (or many) may be afraid she is not enough.

Posted 11 years ago

Hi Stephanie,

I was on the call with you and Deb a few weeks ago and I did not write your e-mail address down. I would love to buy a copy of your CD. Please let me know what website I can go to (or e-mail address I can mail to) in order to purchase one.

Thank-you,
Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

Eric, David, Pam,

So much food for thought, I feel I am learning about myself just from witnessing your conversation. Eric, I found Gary’s blog “The Shocking Truth About Compassion” extremely powerful.I am reminded by reading his post that things are not always what they appear to be. An action that appears cruel can actually be a compassionate one.

Do I have the courage to act with an empowered heart without attachment to the outcome? Do I have the courage to refuse to relate to my friend when he has been drinking? Do I have the courage to refuse to interact with him from a place of mutual need? I do. It’s putting this courage into action that is most challenging for me.

It requires that I let go of many things that I have hung onto. It requires that I let go of the need for my friend to be a certain way before I can accept myself (or him). It requires that I let go of trying to find external validation for myself. It requires that I let go of the need to be needed in order to be acceptable, valuable, and loved.

It requires me to be radically compassionate towards myself, and accept that my value does not come from doing for others, but from expressing that which is within me in love.

Love,
Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

Sundar,

By ‘that’ I am referring to this paragraph:
“Personally speaking, I prefer Gary’s approach. I do not think it necessary to include the internal effect of physical sensations such as exhaustion in the dynamic of karma. I think that a physical sensation such as exhaustion is a fantastic signal that the Universe gives us in order for us to realize that a negative thought is occurring in our energy system and for us to attempt to recognize the fp that is trying to rear its ugly head, so that we can address it inside our own system and not allow it to spill outside and have an external effect on others and other things.”

Do your head and heart agree about this statement?

Love,
Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

Sundar,

So, that’s what your head thinks…what does your heart know as truth?

Love,
Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

Sundar,

Your processing of this tragedy is profound. I do not understand, however, what you mean by “The ‘selfishness’ associated with the individual consciousness has no role to play there.” Do you mean to say that Adam Lanza did not choose to act in the manner that he did? Or are you simply making a clear connection between selfishness in the collective human consciousness as having played a role?

Thank-you for helping me to hear you.
Love,
Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

Sundar,

I teach and counsel children at an elementary school, and I wanted you to know that I consciously use the tools and concepts Gary and Linda write about in whatever ways I can in working with these children, and my co-workers. Thank-you for bringing your consciousness to your work with your students, as well.

Love,
Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

Dear Eric,

I hope that your breakfast with your neighbor was rich with opportunities for connection and sharing. I wish you a beautiful winter soulstice.
With love,
Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

Dear Sundar,

I am going to quote Gary in a moment, but before I do, I want to suggest that only YOU know what is true for you, no matter what source tells you it’s so (or not so).
From pg. 188 The Mind of the Soul “A temptation is an opportunity for you to choose differently before you create destructive and painful consequences.”
Then from pg. 189 “A temptation is a dress rehearsal for a negative karmic event.”
In other words, (as I see it), it’s not about judging yourself for having “negative” thoughts, or trying to control your thoughts. It’s about observing them and choosing to act from the healthiest part of yourself (love).

Love,
Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

Sundar,
Gary shares that negative (fearful) thoughts don’t lead to negative karma. Acting on these thoughts in fear (vs. acting in love) produces painful consequences (negative karma). (Hence, again, the beauty of temptation).
Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

It takes courage for you to admit that there is a fp that tells you that without her love you are not lovable. No wonder there is pain associated with her not texting you back. Again, I acknowledge the things you are discovering about yourself.

I used to be sooo frightened that I didn’t even know it- when I was in relationship with my former partner, if he didn’t text me back right away, I would immediately react with anger. I know now a fp had a huge fear of being abandoned (because of being frightened that I was unworthy of love).

I still have many fps today, but one thing that has changed is rather than reacting with anger if he doesn’t text me/call me back right away, I have been able to focus inwards. The first time, I was experiencing a lot of pain in my chest and stomach. After fully feeling it, I did the most loving thing I could, which was have a bath. Then the second time, I noticed I had pain again in my chest, and kept choosing to do the most loving thing, this time it was to cry.

Just the other day, we had planned to talk at a certain time. When he didn’t contact me within a few minutes of our agreed upon time, I trusted that there was a valid reason, (and that it wasn’t because I’m unlovable). Sure enough, within a few minutes, he called to explain that someone had been getting mugged outside his apartment just as he was about to call, and that he had been assisting the victim! He, of course, went back to the gentleman, and when he was done assisting, we had a lovely conversation.

I appreciate hearing about how you have been remaining present with yourself in situations that trigger fps. It is so rewarding to hear about your discoveries, and to share mine.

Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

December 2, 2012, I wrote the following poem to myself in my journal.
This is what resonates with me in responding to your question about our sacred contracts. I think it has a lot to do with what I’m discovering about mine.

Learning HOW to LOVE

is learning how to let go
of expectations,
timelines,
fears.

is learning how to trust
yourself,
others,
the Universe.

is learning how to accept & feel your feelings
and knowing that they
are not you.

is learning how to flow
in life.

is learning how to access intuition.

is believing your life is valuable
Your experiences,
thoughts,
feelings,
are VALID.

You deserve to live in
JOY,
FREEDOM and
CHOICE,
ABUNDANCE
HARMONY & PEACE,
CO-CREATION,
SHARING,
SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIP
with yourself,
others,
the Universe.

is knowing you are not alone.

is believing you are WORTHY of your life.

You are worthy of thriving not just surviving.

Posted 12 years ago

Thank-you for sharing, Jo Ann. I am grateful to be on this journey with you.

Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

Wow. What a profound experience of challenging yourself to come from love rather than from fear. And look at the consequences you created! I celebrate with you the world you have chosen to open to. Clearly, you made the choice not to come from your fps.
I am also amazed of the parallel between your post and the recent experience I have had with my former partner. We spent last Sunday together, and my intent was to listen to him with love and openness, and to co-create from love. I am amazed at how smooth and flowing the day was. I felt like every moment was filled with a richness and magnificence beyond explanation. Even making dinner with him – which in the past had become tedious and boring – felt sacred. What a delight it is to experiment in the conscious creation of our futures.
Thank-you for sharing, Eric.
Kelley

Posted 12 years ago

I am reminded of this prayer.
Lord (Universe, Divine Intelligence, God, Higher Power, ___________)
Make me an instrument of peace.
Where there is hatred, love.
Where there is doubt, faith.
Where there is despair, hope.
Where there is darkness, light.
Where there is sadness, joy.

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