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Posted 11 years ago
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Hi Eric, I’m just going to experiement and put this out there….As I read the posts, what is coming up for me is intention. If after exploring what is being triggered inside of me and taking responsiblity for my experience (when I feel that someone may be lying to me)… and I still sense this person may not be telling the truth as a matter of decernment or observation and not as a judgement ….if I am still feeling distance from this person, then I feel to be in my integrity, I want to share MY experience… that I do not feel that I am not being told the truth and I do not know if this is accurate… and I want to share that so I can remove the wall that I have put up…without attachement to the outcome or a specific answer or responce from the other person (or any response)…and see what happens and what else I can learn about myself. My intention is to use my courange and share what is going on with me (which my frightened parts do not want me to do) that is keeping me distant(and in my thoughts)….and as an opportunity for a deeper connection….or not…with this person. I appreciate the topic. Love, Gail |
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Posted 12 years ago
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Hi Eric, I have enjoyed reading the postings that you and Soula shared. I have had those very same frightened parts come up in me most frequently when we have my husbands side of the family over for dinner. I had just that very opportunity(of those fps becoming active) when we celebrated my husband’s B.D. last w/e. His 2 children and our 3 grand children pluse sister in law were with us for 3 days. I have been challenging these frightened parts of my personality for quite some time now, and like you, I have experimented with asking for help/not asking for help (and looking at my intention for asking), and when I asked without attachment to outcome, I received the help….What was so great about that was that I truly did not care if I received help or not…the challenge for me was to ASK FOR HELP. I also experimented with sitting at the dinner table and staying engaged in the conversation, instead of clearing the table and putting away food right after the meal. This too was very painful for me….to NOT TO CLEAR THR TABLE AND ACTUALLY GET INTERESTED IN THE CONVERSATION…and again, it truly did not matter to me if someone else started clearing the table or not….I was doing the work of challenging my frightened parts that feel more comfortable being busy and do not want to connect (so my fps can blame them and make them wrong!). I found this facinating to me. I sat at the table for 20 or more minutes….and enjoyed myself. When I was ready, I began to clear the table…and no one helped me…and I was perfectly OK with that…I was not attached. The next morning,I noticed the breakfast table was set and someone else was preparing breakfast. They asked me to sit down and have some coffee…they wanted to make breakfast. I beleive it was because, like you Eric, my energy had a very different quality to it…I was not sending negetive energy by judging, blaming, feeling victized and angry. This was a great experiment/experience and I learned so much about myself….I felt very connected to everyone who joined us that w/e. I received a text from my husband’s son after the w/e saying how much he enjoyed the w/e and thanked me for organizing such a greeat w/e for his Dad’s b.d. What a gift! (even w/o the text message…the whole experience was truly a blessing to me). |
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Posted 13 years ago
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I too had a friend that fear based parts of me temporarily pulled away from, because I felt she was “stuck” and not interested in growing. What I learned about myself from that experience was that she was mirroring frightened parts of my personality, that up until that point, I had not been open or willing to see in myself! The truth was I felt “stuck” (or frightened parts of me felt stuck) and I judged myself for not “changing” as fast as I felt I should….and projecting that onto my friend. Frightened parts of my were not accepting or appreicating myself ….and were not accepting or appreicating my friend either. I made a choice to see her and myself differently..from a loving perspective. I love the analogy of “rooms in my Mansion” …some rooms are loving that I want to cultivate, and some rooms are fear based, that I intend to challenge. I would love to hear other peoples experiences too. |