I have found that when I am consistently feeling fear and anxiety in my life, there is an increased urge to take control and work through it. Never works. What has always worked for me, when I come to the end of myself and am exhausted from all the agitation, is a complete surrender to a higher power. For me, that higher power is Jesus. It means acknowledging that I am in over my head and need help, and am at last willing to get out of my own way and let that higher power go to work. Then remember to stay out of the way, and don’t try to take back the reins if results are immediate.