Hi Joanne, yes I am familiar with the guidelines but only new to it so I haven’t practised it properly yet. Choosing compassion with your partner is great and it takes strength to do I think. Also, sitting with the pain or discomfort in the body.. This I’m trying to getused but I can’t say it’s coming easy, first feeling where it is and then sitting with it.. I’d like to master that. Which I think you were doing when you chose compassion rather than asking your partner what’s wrong. Baby steps I guess :). How long does the discomfort last? Aren’t you just eager to know what’s bothering her? I don’t have a partner as such but I have a lot of family members that are sometimes difficult to deal with. Also I’ve got 2 kids and occasionally I lose my temper when there’s sibling rivalry.. But my awareness comes later! Then I ask myself how could I have handled that better, more calmly. It’s a little overwhelming as I’m so used to reacting! Also, the other day I found that when I’m talking with someone and they’re talking to me about an issue I start feeling agitated and start judging and giving advice that’s coming from fear. I think it’s a great thing that at least, in reflection, I’m noticing now what I’m doing. Then telling myself I am responsible for how I feel regardless of the subject or interaction. It’s a step forward just got to keep practising it. Keen to know how choosing compassion worked out for you and whether you’ve got tips that are worthy of passing on ESP. That you have been familiar with Gary’s teachings for 20 years.
I look forward to your reply.

Love
Elsie