Hi Pam,

I think that’s great that you were able to come back to learning about yourself during such an intense situation, or at least intense from a perspective of a frightened part. It’s a good reminder to me that I can use anything to grow and become more peaceful and loving.

I do have one question. Often, when I’m talking to family members they don’t seem to want to be supported and just want to “let it go” after they’ve had some strong f.p’s triggered. I found that if I continue to support them after a statement like that, they usually get angry. It’s made me wonder whether or not it’s ever appropriate to continue, because after all, doesn’t the statement “let it go” mean they aren’t open to support? I guess like anything it comes down to my intention to why I am choosing to speak to them or not and if I am attached to them not being upset with me. Sometimes I think not continuing to speak to them could be a loving intention and other times a fearful intention because I don’t want them to be angry with me. In your interaction with your daughter, do you feel like she still could have been supported even though she asked you to let it go? I guess my question really is, do you think it’s possible that you had a frightened part of your personality that did not want to continue to support her after she made that statement so that she wouldn’t be cross with you again?

Love,

David