Hi everyone,

I would like to share a way that I experiment with the “timeless” question of “what next.”

My commitment is to learn about myself in my interactions. I may notice a familiar fp that feels inferior and does not want to speak about my idea or suggestion. Specifically being inferior has many fps for me that may be at play. In this situation, I may fear, being dismissed, ignored, fears criticism, is jealous/compares and withdraws.

The physical sensations in my body(pain) and my thoughts (self-critical) are informing me of an opportunity to challenge this fp belief/perspective at that time. So, as a scientist of the soul, I open to my intuition and use my courage to experiment with doing it differently than before. My challenge is to maintain focus within my body as I experiment with my words and actions. Behind my word and action is my intention. A key intention for me is learning to be in my integrity in all of my interactions. It is my body and brain(thoughts) that guide me in seeing if the intention for my behavior was from love or fear. It is my challenge because I have a fear based aspect of me that looks at the other person reaction for seeking validation/approval. This aspect of me has an expectation from the other person. When I am in integrity(in line with my deepest values of my soul) in my interaction I can feel the energy in my centers as an alignment and balance as compared to an off alignment/pain(a pull by the fp). It is not easy to stand up for my integrity and hold that intention. For me when I do this at every choice I am creating authentic power. This is why being in this community is so valuable and very supportive to me on my journey.

With gratitude and love,
Soula.

Cindy,

I enjoyed reading your sharing. Thank you. What struck me the most is when you were at the “skills fair” and you caught yourself in a fp that wanted attention by saying something funny and cute. I’ m wondering if the aspect of yourself that wanted attention by doing something funny and cute was loving and the fp that caught you was the fp of judgment or shame that kept you from your love in that moment. Just a thought ….

Love,
Soula.

Hi Sundar,

I picked up the Heart of the Soul in 2005 from the table in the bookstore titled Oprah’s favorites. I had not heard of Gary before. I opened the book and read the following passages;
1, “Your emotions tell you how and where energy leaves your energy system. they provide you with information. Painful emotions are not obstacles to a happy life. They are road signs that show you the direction that you must travel if you want to create a happy life. That direction is always towards your emotions.”

2. You may think your anger comes from an interaction with a rude person, but it does not.”

I closed the book skeptical between the connection of emotions and self-help. As I looked at other books in the store I could not get my mind off of these passages. “It is not the rude person that is making me angry?” I thought. I wanted to learn more. I bought the book and it stayed by my bed side for three years. I attended my first Journey to the Soul in 2008 where I put into practice the things I had read in the Heart of the Soul with other people. It was my experience at this event that was my ‘aha moment’ that lead me to my commitment to create authentic power.

Thank you.

With love and Blessings,
Soula.

Hi Kristen,

I feel this pain as a deep tightness in my throat and solar plexus area and pounding in the right side of my brain when I,m having the obsessive thoughts. A small burning in my heart. I know that I was used my courage to be in integrity with my boss yesterday. The universe supported me in being integrity with myself. I took that opportunity to take responsibility for the fp and how I could challenge it. My steps were I shared about it on this community board yesterday. Then I decided to go the gym with the intention to challenge this fp energy and not to distract myself. I felt the fp of shame when I walked into the gym. I looked around at the people as souls each with their own earth suits as a perspective I choose to challenge this fp. I noticed becoming present and more focused. The shame fp usually feels like a pressure around my eyes and centre of my forehead and blurry. I enjoyed my workout. I later wrote to some spiritual partners. These steps were a healing balm. They were the creation of authentic power. My body felt much more relaxed, the obsessive thoughts and pounding had left and I felt gratitude and connection with my soul.

Doug and Cindy,

I would love to hear about how you are choosing integrity with your interactions with your co workers.

With Love,
Soula.

I just got a call at work from my son. I was surprised when my phone rang and saw it was him because he usually doesn’t call me in the middle of the afternoon. Then I thought, he had his final exam today so he’s calling me to tell me about it. He quickly said how he felt he did on the exam and then said that the reason he was calling me was because he wanted to talk about something that happened at dinner last night and that when he thinks about it he feels pain in his heart. He said that he felt bad that he said that the food was not good and that daddy was criticizing it also in addition some other stuff I had cooked, and that he wanted to know how I felt about it. I shared with him that I had forgotten about it and that now that he mentioned it I was feeling tightness in my throat and a little queasy in my stomach area. I told him my thoughts are coming from fear that want to blame and manipulate and be caretaken because a fp was triggered in me which felt was not good enough.I felt the shame fp (in my stomach) also for having this fp that wanted to have my son caretake me. Knowing my son has fps that care take I set my intention to support him in challenging these fps. I asked him if he was open to seeing that when his heart feels pain and he has thoughts like I hurt the other person’s feelings that may be coming from fear that the other person will not like him or be the way his fp want that person to be. I told him that I felt he was clear and in integrity when he stated his opinion about the food not being as good as usual and that maybe his fp became triggered when his dad’s fp became active and criticized re” the food.
I have been practising spiritual partnership with my children for several years but it mostly has been one way, that is looking at my reactions and responses as I interacted with them about authentic power and how I am learning to use it and create it. This time was significantly different experience in that I felt an opening in my son to share about this experience as spiritual partners. The conversation felt healthy and strong. I congratulate myself in supporting both me and my son in creating authentic power.

Love Soula.

Hi Kristen,

For me Gary!s version of the prayer resonates more with me than the original version. It feels more grounded for me in that it is clearer and direct and practical. Saying it each morning and holding it in my heart throughout the day especially when storms hit, is supporting me in seeing how fear plays out through the mirror of my interactions with people at work and home, and bringing this back to what I can learn/see about the same fear in me. This helps me to learn what a healthy/empowering response would be that will balance the energy of my soul.

With Appreciation,

Soula.

Hello,

So very much appreciate this thread, it’s richness and complexity. Before Linda and Gary’s life school call on vulnerability I thought that being vulnerable was about expressing my feelings to the other person. From a multi sensory perspective there is more that is in play. A recent event at work was very significant for me in that chose to challenge fps that were tolerant of certain behaviours that were not in my integrity. Due to the suppression (tolerance ) I had indulged fps of anger and resentment primarily, that while using my courage to be in integrity and be vulnerable about my feelings of the behaviour the energy of these fps were also at play. The vulnerability was coming from fps that had the intention to judge the behaviour and blame the persons involved. The vulnerability that was coming from loving parts was using my courage to say what I needed, in this case, employees that I can trust, and this behaviour has triggered a part of me that feels disappointed and hurt. I took responsibility for these feelings by choosing to use this as an opportunity to feel this old deep pain with the intention to learn about the emotional need that was not being met for a long time in my life, unbeknownst to me that I had this need. The fps that were tolerating this behaviour for many years were trying to get this need met through manipulating and controlling others. I chose to be vulnerable by sharing my feelings with the intention of love/ integrity to meet my need of being truly seen and understood. The fps fears were being judged by my own inner mean judge and by others. The fear of not feeling worthy to be seen and understood as these fps do not believe it. So I took this risk/courage to challenge these fps in me to create a life where I attract others that do see and understand me genuinely because I am doing the same for myself so that I will be able to feel it and receive it in my life.

Thank you all for your amazing shares,

Love,
Soula.

Cheryl, you say that you are more tolerant than accepting with your husband when he watches TV and describe your fps. What would be an action you can take that would be more accepting? I experience a similar reaction with my husband and have acted on my fps by covertly expressing my discontent verbally and non verbally, sarcasm etc. I thought of tolerance as doing nothing but this is also a form of tolerance. Accepting for me is to be in integrity and clearly express from an open place in my body my needs in that moment. This requires me to look at my fps deeply and know what they are trying to tell me about myself. My reaction from his response to that further tells me whether I was coming from love or fear. It is a sacred practice indeed.
Love, Soula.