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Topic: Unworthiness - Berta Started 11 years, 5 months ago
Posted 11 years ago
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Today’s APLC call (6/29/13) brought up a lot in me. There are so many FP’s that I’ve been challenging and that I experience in regards to feeling unworthy and so many topics (within the topic of unworthiness) that I can write about, but I’ll choose one. It’s about “entitlement” and how it is related to my FP of unworthiness. Often, I become angry when I see someone behaving as though they are “entitled” to things – behaving as though they are “superior.” So I began to look at that and wondered why I was being so triggered by that behavior. Well, it comes down to feeling as though when I was growing up and still sometimes today that others did not think I was good enough to be in certain circles because of my economic circumstances growing up. I realized I often feel unworthy and when I see people behaving as though they are “entitled” I judge them because of my pain of feeling as though I was “snubbed.” I have been doing so much work on my FP’s and I’ve come to a point where I’m actually enjoying the opportunities that arise for me to challenge my FP’s instead of resisting them or thinking that I’ll just set aside some separate time to challenge them instead of dealing with the FP’s in the moment. I don’t enjoy the painful sensations in my body, but it is liberating to know that I can “let go” and feel them in the moment and challenge the FP’s in the moment instead of contracting myself and pushing down the uncomfortable/painful feelings/sensations. The loving parts I experience are “Don’t judge yourself, you are doing the best you can,” “Start again, and do it more lovingly next time and you will have endless opportunities to be more loving the next time when you challenge an FP” and “I’m grateful for those who give me the opportunity to challenge my FP’s by presenting me when their own FP’s. It made me think of a recent newsletter/blog from Gary & Linda and our previous APLC call where they talked about Love and how everything is love. So my FP’s are still love because they are serving me and others to grow and other people’s FP’s are a service to me and others and it is love. So grateful…… |
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Posted 11 years ago
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Berta, |
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Posted 11 years ago
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Hello Catherine, Thank you for your support in helping me continue to challenge my FP’s and for your own sharing as well. The reaction – “sensations” in my body when someone is behaving as though they are “entitled” is strong pressure in my head and pressure and contractions in my throat. I believe this is due to having another FP that feels powerless and often had the perception her voice was not heard or dismissed. The thoughts are “How arrogant of you,” “Who do you think you are?” “You aren’t more special than anyone else.” And often I will be judging myself as I’m having these thoughts. In the past I would contract more and more and feel overwhelmed and another FP would tell me I was horrible for having all of these negative thoughts. More recently, I’m more able to immediately shift and think “Okay, you’re triggered, this is something of yours to deal with regardless of the behavior of the other person” and sometimes I can also think “That person is in a frightened part of her/himself…. that is not her/his soul.” I challenge the FP’s by recognizing them as FP’s and that it is something I have to work on inside myself (not externally) and shift to more loving thoughts and actions. I also struggle with the FP of wanting to be “a pleaser.” I have challenged it often but it is a big one for me. I would also like to support you in challenging your FP’s. It is wonderful that you are aware of your FP of wanting to please and that you have an awareness of where you feel the emotions in your body. What other FP’s arise when someone appears to be authoritative and controlling (in addition to wanting to please and feelings of powerlessness)? What thoughts came to you as you felt anger towards your colleague? What other loving parts can you apply to challenge the FP’s of “wanting to please” and “feelings of powerlessnes.” Thanks for your response and your sharing. Much Love, |
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Hello Berta, |
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Hi Catherine, It is so wonderful that you are committed to “loving the triggers” no matter what. I look forward to continuing this discussion or others with you. I will not be able to be at the “Journey” this year, but I will be there in spirit! Have a wonderful time at the Journey! Much Love, |
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Posted 11 years ago
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Thank you for your wishes, Berta. We will miss you this year, but I hope to stay in touch through the forum. |
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