I might add that this of course also applied to me personally. I have experienced great relief and gratitude when I started to realise where my own tendency to be angry, despondent, even violent at times really came from. This realization was the start of change within me. As Gary has often said, it is important to become aware of your emotions, to dare to feel them, but not to act on them in a destructive fashion. I have experienced that once I start feeling and, importantly, making the connection between my feelings and real events in the past, acting destructively on those feelings is no longer necessary. But it is a process that is on-going, in my case.