i recently shared some business challenges I was experiencing regarding my husband, son and I, who are in partnership, trying to purchase a new building. Last week the negotiations had broken down and the lawyers for the company we were purchasing got involved. I was speaking to the Realtor who told me that he was sort of removed from his position when the lawyers got involved. My fp’s were on alert! There were lots of five sensory issues swirling; being in default if we didn’t pay the hefty fine they wanted to impose, losing the opportunity to expand our business at this time, dealing with our lawyers who’s incorrect paperwork started this process. My intention during my conversations with lawyers and the realtor was to stay in my integrity and challenge whatever triggers wanted me to follow them into doubt and fear. At one significant point in our conversation the realtor told me “you know you really don’t have any negotiating power”. It appeared to be said from a place that wanted me to just be quiet and do whatever he believed would simplify things. Now here’s where for me it got very interesting. In the past I/my fp would have felt insulted and demeaned. I would have come back with a terse, put you in your place reply. But even though I was triggered, I could see that this was a great opportunity to practice creating Authentic Power. My response instead was that I didn’t want to engage that playing field. I said that I wasn’t interested in negotiating anything. I wanted to do what I believed was the most loving thing for all concerned. I did not use that terminology. But I knew that I was acting from my heart and not my head/fp’s. I stated what we were willing to do to get the purchase back on track, and if that did not suit the others, we were willing to deal with whatever happened. As has happened in the past when I’m given the opportunity to respond, not react to things going other than I had hoped, I felt a deep sense of peace and knowing that whatever happened was for my benefit and growth. I did not feel the need to try to manipulate or control what was going on. Using the tools, following the AP Guidelines has given me a clearer path. A path without fear. A path that brings joy and equality. I don’t have to be better or less than anyone to accomplish anything. It shows me the beauty in everyone and everything. Namaste, Pam