Intention
Topic: Thanks to Karen and Gordon from Colorado - Mary Broad Started 11 years, 11 months ago
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Posted 12 years ago
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More and more I am becoming aware of my intentions, and consciously choosing love. On the chapter 3 phone call I became aware that an email I had sent to my friend Phil which contained the word NOT (in caps) was coming from fear. What a realization. Thank you to Karen and Gordon from Colorado who were kind enough to help me understand this in our after-the-class small group talk time. I talked to Phil on the phone the next day and shared the insights that I had experienced on the phone call. It was healing for both of us. With gratitude and love, Mary
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Hi Mary, Thank you for your sharing. It takes me to the first time I realized my real intention was to manipulate someone in a business office. To get them to like me so they would give me the information I wanted. I was surprised to uncover this hidden agenda. It’s turned out to be a helpful tool to remember to look at my intention and whether it is coming from love or fear. If I discover it’s coming from fear, then I practice shifting the intention to come from love. For example, if I ask someone how are you, do I mean it, am I present and listening? If not, I do my best to shift to mean it, get present and listen. And to look for the original motivation. Cheryl |
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Hi Cheryl, Thanks for your thoughtful response. This course is really waking me up to so much! I also very much appreciate the connection to others who are similarly motivated. It is very reinforcing and inspiring! Now I can see how often in the past my intention has not been from love and I must say, I’m a bit shocked. I also am more conscious of the intentions of others. I was in a conversation yesterday with my mom and she suggested doing something that I knew would be hurtful to my sister. I asked her what her intention was and she got really stuck and flustered, perhaps realizing that her intention did not come from love. She threatened to hang up on me and I calmly said she could do that. In the past I would have felt upset by her threat, and probably resisted it, adding fuel to the fire, so to speak. But this time I remained calm and loving. I shifted the conversation to something lighter and then we said goodbye. Quite a different result than I would have experienced in the past! I’m encouraged too that my husband showed some interest in the course yesterday and has noticed the changes in me since starting it. I am so glad I was able to take it! Thanks again for writing back. It feels great to have someone to share these ideas with. Love, Mary |
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Wow Kelley, what an interesting situation! I think your idea, to acknowledge his growth without “stroking his ego” is a good way to go. Really and truly, what difference does it make what he believes? He is entitled to believe whatever he wants to believe. He could even believe that the world is flat if he wanted to. So basically, you have a difference of opinion. He believes one thing and you believe another. Maybe you could just agree to disagree? And I guess the challenge for you would be to not judge his opinion as wrong. That way you could keep/hold your truth and still come from love. Who knows, maybe he’s developed psychic powers and can really see into the future! Stranger things have happened, I’m sure. So how do you keep/hold your truth without toppling his? You can’t topple his. It’s not possible. Only he can do that. You can’t create in another person’s reality. You can only create in your own reality. You are responsible for your life, just as he is responsible for his life. So if you are bothered by his beliefs, that’s not his doing, that’s your doing. You are the one choosing to be bothered. You could also choose to let it go, just let him have his belief and realize that that’s all it is, a belief. Then you would be free to be loving toward him, without judgement or defensiveness. BTW, do people tell you that you look like Demi Moore? |
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Hi Mary, Thank you for sharing this example of being a spiritual partner with your mother. Beautiful. I ask my family members (and more and more other folks) what their intentions are too. I find that curiosity supports me in coming from love when I ask. Judgment has been familiar to me. I am catching my judging more quickly and notice it’s control over me lessening. Good connecting with you. It is meaningful! Love… Cheryl |
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Hi Cheryl, Your response to my message was amazingly well timed. I have a situation going on with a friend and I just now asked him what his intention was in sending me an email response. In this instance I am looking for clarity so that I don’t end up make an assumption. But in both cases (with my Mom and with my friend) I’m wondering if me asking about what their intentions are is coming from the loving parts of my personality or the frightened parts? Any insights? Thanks for your support, Cheryl! |
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Hi Mary, Scan your energy centers (throat,chest,solar plexus) as you remember asking them what their intentions were. Discomfort signals coming from fear. What was your motivation in asking them? Was it to support them in recognizing a fearful part that they were not aware of (authentic power)? Was it to change them (external power) because you didn’t like what they were saying or judging them? I have experienced discomfort in my energy centers coming from fear of how the person I am asking about intentions might react… fear they might not like what I’m asking or me. And at the same time feel loving and without attachment in my intention to support them. More than one thing can be going on… both fear and love. With love… Cheryl |
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You bring up a good point, Cheryl, and one that has me a bit perplexed. Can we really experience love and fear at the same time? Or do we go back and forth between the two? As far as scanning my energy centers goes, I rarely feel anything. I don’t usually experience pain of any kind in those energy centers and it makes me think that I must be very out of touch with my emotions. Or maybe I’m genuinely coming from a loving part of my personality! That would be lovely! If I experience anything on a physical level as a result of frightened parts of my personality being triggered, I would say I feel tired, exhausted. But I don’t generally feel anything in those energy centers. I am trying to be more conscious of them and hope to be more in touch with them in the future. Any thoughts/insights? |
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Hi Mary, When I cannot feel any physical sensations in my energy centers (i.e., constriction in my throat, or a stabbing pain in my chest…or whatever the sensation may be) then I pay attention to my thoughts. If they are judgmental, critical or angry thoughts, then I know I am coming from fear. If they are thoughts of gratitude or patience then I know they are coming from love. Once I recognize where my thoughts are coming from (love or fear) then I pay attention to my energy centers and see if I can feel physical sensations. With Love, Gail |
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Hi Gail, Thanks for your thoughtful response. I appreciate the support and will keep what you say in mind. I am usually pretty aware of my thoughts, so I will start paying closer attention to my energy centers and see if I can feel sensations. I do experience fatigue when I’m stressed, so maybe that’s a start. With lots of love and gratitude, |
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Hi Mary and Gail, I resonate with Gail’s sharing about how thoughts can help you discover physical sensations. Sometimes my thoughts directly let me know I am coming from fear… when I am judging, trying to change others for example. Sometimes the discomfort in my energy centers gets my attention… constriction/pressure in my chest, tightness in my throat, hoarseness in my voice. When I am aware of one, thoughts or physical sensations, the other is generally present when I look for it. Both support my learning about myself. For example I have connected the dots with feeling a hardness in my chest behind my lungs when frightened parts of my personality are judging. With love… Cheryl |
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