I recently read an interesting statement by a neuro-biologist who said that an emotion caused by any stimulus only actually lasts for 90 seconds in the brain. She didn’t use the term frightened part when she described how that emotion gets turned into either war or peace based on how we fuel that flame. But I certainly recognized how my fp’s use any trigger to create a long running scenario with it’s descriptions and stories of how that trigger causes me to feel. If not for my fp’s, I could be peaceful and free after a nominal 90 seconds. So I set my intention to experiment with looking at what was happening 90 seconds after I was triggered. Didn’t have to wait very long – the Universe is so accommodating. My husband, son & I have a business together. The three of us were talking about a business matter, and my son got triggered by something I said, and the conversation also quickly triggered me. I recognized that I was triggered, but having practiced creating authentic power for awhile now, I knew that I did not want to engage in a fp exchange. I felt some tightness in my chest, but overall I was able to challenge a fp urge to explain, caretake, feel superior, feel angry…. After the 90 seconds what I noticed was how my fp thoughts kept circling in my head. I didn’t hve a strong attachment to them, but they kept recurring. Without conscious effort it would have been so comfortable and easy to indulge them and create distance from my family. I was able to somewhat objectively look at how re-acting from fear creates such negative consequences. It was helpful to understand that I am biologically hardwired to do the fight or flight thing for only 90 seconds. After that the choice is squarely mine whether to act from love or to act from fear. In the past a conversation like the one I had with my son, would have been flamed into an I’m right & justified story that could have gone on for who knows how long. Challenging fp’s and choosing love in my life has taken me to all the places I want to go. And in the process has kept my loved ones close in my heart. With Love & Gratitude, Pam