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Topic: Overwhelm? - Rosalind Started 11 years, 1 month ago
Posted 11 years ago
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Hi David, My experience is that I usually tense up my body when I am in a frightened part and I usually feel like I can breathe more deeply and freely when I am in a loving part of my personality. I will look at this again to see if maybe my breathing and release of tension is really a frightened part disguised as a loving part. Thanks for the suggestion. I have been sitting with this situation and looking at my feelings and thoughts of being having too much to do. I also have been focusing on what Pam and Gail wrote regarding when they think that anything outside of themselves are responsible for what happens in their lives and/or they blame some one or some thing outside of themselves for how they are choosing to react/feel and that it could be a fp that is active that wants them to believe they are powerless and a victim. It has been helpful for me to think about this and also what Pam said about events in one’s life being triggers to help heal fps. Gary and Linda have talked all about this before, and I always understood what they meant, but haven’t been really applying this concept to my current experience. So, I’m grateful for the reminder and support. The anticipation and preparation regarding being a part of this group or team experience has been a trigger for me to challenge fps that need healing. I am going to be with my thoughts and feelings about this experience and take a look at it. Love, |
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Posted 11 years ago
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Hi David, My experience is that I usually tense up my body when I am in a frightened part and I usually feel like I can breathe more deeply and freely when I am in a loving part of my personality. I will look at this again to see if maybe my breathing and release of tension is really a frightened part disguised as a loving part. Thanks for the suggestion. I have been sitting with this situation and looking at my feelings and thoughts of being having too much to do. I also have been focusing on what Pam and Gail wrote regarding when they think that anything outside of themselves are responsible for what happens in their lives and/or they blame some one or some thing outside of themselves for how they are choosing to react/feel and that it could be a fp that is active that wants them to believe they are powerless and a victim. It has been helpful for me to think about this and also what Pam said about events in one’s life being triggers to help heal fps. Gary and Linda have talked all about this before, and I always understood what they meant, but haven’t been really applying this concept to my current experience. So, I’m grateful for the reminder and support. The anticipation and preparation regarding being a part of this group or team experience has been a trigger for me to challenge fps that need healing. I am going to be with my thoughts and feelings about this experience and take a look at it. Love, |
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I am moved to share a gift I received from my Spiritual Partner Leo around ‘overwhelm’, a gift that has helped me look at ‘overwhelm’ with totally new eyes – and I offer it as a possible support to others. We were listening to another SP talk about her frightened part’s reaction when additional responsibilities were added to an already heavy workload and Leo suddenly commented, “Sounds like you have an abundance of work.” That word – abundance – transformed everything for me. It’s energy is so generous and beautiful. I suddenly saw the blessing in having lots to do, in having the skill to do it, in having people in my life who need me to do it, and situations that can benefit from my doing it. I love feeling gratitude. Thank you, Leo. |
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What a beautiful perspective and shift from overwhelm to abundance. Thank you Leo and Rosalind! |
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Hi David, Thank you for supporting Deb. It is familiar for me to feel overwhelm and I know I have allowed it to limit my spiritual growth. A recent example for me: I was asked to speak before a group and share what I had learned at a Leadership Institute that I attended. In the past, I would not have seen this as an opportunity but this time I chose to make a healthy choice and say “yes”. As I was preparing the talk, I realized that their was so much I could share about my experience the feeling of overwhelm surfaced yet again. As I sat with the pain in my heart and in my throat, the frightened part thoughts were “I have nothing to share”, “How could they ask this of me?”, “Why me?”, “There is always a price to pay!”. Then I heard healthy self say “focus on what was important to me to share from what I learned”. I did and the sharing seemed to write itself. When I presented it, I spoke from my heart and not from my head. The energy of the sharing was amazing. I received confirmation from some in the audience as to how what I shared touched their heart. I feel I experienced grace. With gratitude, Carol Ann |
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Your sharing is very powerful and supportive for me, Carol. Thank you so much. With love, Rosalind |
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Right now, I am thinking about that song, “Turn! Turn! Turn! (to Everything There is a Season),” and the first verse, which is “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” That first verse reminds me of intention and how important it is that I understand what my intention is for doing anything in my life, such as taking on more responsibilities. I have challenged the fp for many years that didn’t know if it could assume more responsibilities, and I have learned and grown from challenging it. I’ve nurtured my humanitarian and care giving side; I’ve learned and grown by participating in spiritual programs and group activities; I’ve learned academically by getting my Master’s Degree—the list continues, and I assumed these responsibilities while working full time. But for every thing there is a season, and I see my season or intention as being one where I don’t have to prove anything to myself or anyone that I can take on more. I can assume many responsibilities and will continue to do so. I also want to take care of myself and get more than five hours of sleep each workday night; I want to “be” sometimes instead of “doing;” I want to have maybe just a few extra minutes each day to get in touch with my inner voice because it makes me feel grounded and helps me to know myself better; I also want to continue to grow spiritually and have time for creativity. These are my intentions, and I do not feel that taking on more and more is always the best way to challenge the feeling of being overwhelmed. Again, it depends on one’s intention and one’s season. There was a woman that I worked with many years ago, and at the time, there was a lot of overtime work available in our office. This woman probably worked between 15-25 hours extra each week because she wanted to help support her husband and her daughter through college. Approximately five years after consistently working overtime, she developed cancer and died less than six months later. In observing what happened to her, I do not believe that her intention was to take care of herself; instead she was taking care of others and maybe trying to prove something to herself. I have empathy for this woman and see the lessons she taught me—and I am grateful for that. I think considering being a part of the team experience triggered the frightened parts of me that wanted to care take and say I will participate because I thought others wanted me to. I also believe I was people pleasing. However, my intentions are clear to me now and I am grateful for the support I have received from the community board in becoming clear about what I need to do for myself. Love, |
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Hi Deb, I am wondering if you were scanning your energy centers as you were writing your response. I am asking because it feels to me like you have created a story about “overwhelm”. Is that a possibility? |
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Hi Carol Ann: I was not scanning when writing my response, but I do remember my thoughts, which were that I knew it was getting late into the evening, but I wanted to write my response and that it was okay that it was getting late. Late at night when I know I need to go to bed, I usually feel very calm and also like I have a second wind. It is late again and my thoughts are the same; however, I am scanning and do feel a dull ache in my solar plexus right now. Maybe the dull ache is a fp that doesn’t want to disagree with you and is concerned about stating my thoughts, but I will challenge that fp and relate to you that I feel a story actually sounds like a story and I believe I was communicating what I have learned about myself and stated my intentions. I also conveyed that I don’t really think that what was triggered in me when asked to participate in the group/team project was actually a fp that felt overwhelmed. It was actually the fp that doesn’t feel that I have time to take care of myself, etc. (see above), and will now have to care take and people please others by being involved in the group/team project. I appreciate your feedback, Carol Ann, and look forward to hearing back from you or anyone if you may be seeing something that I am not seeing. Love, |
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I became very curious about the experience of overwhelm/stress in me right before the July 2013 journey where this was a common experience among myself and several Sps I was communicating with at that time. I was experiencing feelings of overwhelm and attributed it to my obligations at work before leaving for the journey and summer vacation. This year my awareness of these feelings was much more intense and reacted by working harder to finish my to do list and even do more preparation than I usually do before I leave. My “aha” moment was when I did finish my “to do” list over one week before leaving for the journey and I still felt overwhelmed! “Why am I not relaxed,fulfilled and excited that I accomplished my goal?” This was a question that led me this spiritual path several years ago. So I looked inward, my thoughts were, “I should do more, I forgot to do something and my boss will be disappointed in me. I am not worthy if I am not doing something.” I could feel this experience as anger and at times even rage. My physical sensations are tightness in my stomach area, neck ,shoulders and rib cage areas. I challenged this fp by not taking on more duties both at work and at home. This intensified my fps and I continued to stretch myself by sharing more with SPs and feeling with the intention for healing. As my commitment and confidence in this process grew I continued to stretch myself after the journey which for several years has been the most busiest and stressful months of year. This fall was rich in providing me with opportunities to stretch myself in the area of overwhelm. My daughter was experiencing feelings of overwhelm as she started college. I was working on the most important annual project in my work with a new boss who moved up the deadline one week earlier. This intensified my fps that feared not to meet her expectations and therefore not get admiration and approval, thus creating a big part of the overwhelm. I was determined not to allow these fps beliefs that I am inadequate, not likeable and don’t know how to enjoy myself run the show this time around. The result; it was the most fulfilling and enjoyable time at work I have ever experienced. I enjoyed myself as I experienced more healthy energy while doing my duties and this is because I was choosing moment by moment to act from the most healthiest part of me. My boss even told me that she noticed a positive change in me from when she forts started back in April 2013, and that I handled this stressful period very well. I sincerely told her that I enjoyed myself working on the project this year more than ever. My husband, for the first time said to me,”whatever you are doing, keep doing it.” This felt great. With gratitude and in healing, Soula. |
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Alot of what Deb had said, was just like it was coming out of my mouth. Alot of the same feelings of feeling overwhelmed and not enough time for me…and none of the things I do, can I stop. Doing things here, just felt like something else to cause pressure. I could give a ton of reasons why there is just no time, and there really isn’t…but the bigger picture is why am I so busy. That was when the pain hit. I realized that there is so many fear parts that is causing me to make life way too busy for what is good for me. I realized when I sat with it, that I am now almost 66, and still teaching piano, the same as when I was 40. I could say that it’s financial, as that is part of it…but I received my pension this year so could have cut back a bit. I had intended to but didn’t. It’s because of being afraid of transitioning to a new era of my life…being an older person…I feel 30 in my heart…but body says no way! |
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Thank you Soula — what a powerful sharing! And thank you for spelling out a fp that I had not until now seen: my fp belief that I do not know how to enjoy myself, based largely on that fp’s distorted image of what “enjoying myself” should look like. So supportive for me to see that. In creating authentic power I have experienced more deep-down joy than I ever thought possible, and if that’s not en-joying myself, I don’t know what is! With love, Rosalind |
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Hi Judy, Thank you for your beautiful and courageous sharing. What I have found so supportive for me in this journey to creating authentic power, is to realize that the pain in my life was offering me the opportunity to heal, deeply heal, fp’s of my personality that were keeping the cycle ongoing. When I looked for an external reason for my pain, and tried to heal it that way, all it did was relieve it temporarily and shift it to somewhere else in my life. I thought the story of my pain was the cause, instead of realizing that it was a pointer to something much deeper. My body was manifesting my need for the healing of my soul. Your sharing was an inspiration for me to be more courageous as I challenge my fp’s, and it is an honor to be on this journey with you. wi |
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Overwhelm – I have enjoyed reading each of the above sharing’s. What came up for me recently was that I was looking at “my turn” (fp) to hosting a few friends for a luncheon at our home. It is familiar for me to feel overwhelmed and procrastinate both fps. This time I contacted our friends and set a date. As my fps appeared I was able to challenge them. I cleaned my house from as healthy a place as I could. I stayed present with the details, allowing two half days. Instead of preparing the food the morning of, I experimented with cooking the day before and reheating in the oven the day of. I went to exercise class the morning of (taking care of myself) and by my returning to the present moment each time I noticed the thoughts and feeling of overwhelm. Our guests stayed long after lunch and we had the most wonderful, sharing. For me being present, recognizing my thoughts and feeling my energy centers, made for a healthy welcoming environment for those who were present with me (including my spouse). One of the couples sent an email sharing what a wonderful day they had and how great the food was. My heart continues to be open remembering what it feels like to create authentic power. |
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David noted that sometimes his body relaxes and he can breath easy when he has given a frightened part of his personality what it wants, so that scanning his body in that moment seems to indicate that he is acting from a healthy place. This made me wonder if there is a tool that could help me to unmask a disguised fp in me at my moment of choice, and I suddenly remembered one that I have used but sometimes forget: I can ask myself if I am attached to an outcome (if I am, I know I have a fp). I am so grateful for the community board postings and the support and healthy reminders they give me for my journey. With love, Rosalind |
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