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Topic: Onlline or Offline - Jenny Started 11 years, 2 months ago
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During discussions with some spiritual partners, I often hear “That’s a great question/topic for the Community Board. Why don’t you post it?” My answer is that I prefer talking in person or on the phone. Communicating online doesn’t offer the same subtleties that I see or hear in live conversations. Finally, I say, “The last thing I need is to spend more time in front of the computer.” To this, a spiritual partner replied, “That is so interesting. Why don’t you post that on the Community Board?” Having run our of what I considered to be reasonable answers, here I am… Jenny |
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Jenny, thank you for your post. I have been avoiding the community board for the same reasons you wrote. I feel like it would be indulging a frightened part, “my words are so important that I believe everyone should read them.” and so on. What I see now is that the frightened part in control is the one that really feels I have nothing of value to say and all the rest have been the excuses that frightened part uses to support itself and keep me distant and disconnected from spiritual partners and everyone. I am so much more aware now of my intention behind my actions and always ask is this coming from a loving place? |
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Jenny and Patrice, |
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Jenny, What was your intention in posting on the board? Do you feel like it was coming from love or fear? David |
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Hi David, Respectfully, Soula. |
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Hi Jenny, |
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Hello Everyone, |
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For Soula, That’s a good question. I sat with sharing both ways and did notice some pain in being more direct as you say and decided that it would be more supportive to invite her to check-in for herself. I thought at the time that sharing with Jenny about a frightened part of her personality that I thought I saw did not seem to be coming from love. I know I tend to be more open when people invite me to check-in first. But there could be something to what you say, so I am going to pay more attention next time. Thank you. David |
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Hmmm. I was just about finished writing my thanks for and responses to everyone’s support. Then I hit a button and the whole thing disappeared. I’ll add that to my list of reasons I prefer not to write on the community board. In retrospect, I am now compelled to be brief and to the point. I was caught up in my thoughts about your questions. Then I stopped long enough to actually feel tightness in my chest. Like Leo, I rarely feel the pain in my body. I now think it’s because I don’t want to break from my thoughts. Going back to the tightness and considering my thoughts when it became stronger, I felt fear of not being clear in my writing and of being judged. |
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Hi Jenny, When I hear myself describe how I act or react to a painful situation, its been helpful to realize that I have fp’s active, and I do not have to be defined by them. I am not my fp’s. Your comments, “having run out of what I considered to be reasonable answers” and “I am now compelled to be brief and to the point”, do they come from love or fear? What do you think is the intention of these thoughts? I know that sharing on the Community Board has activated many strong fp’s for me, but doing so has also supported me in learning how to not be controlled by them. Supporting others also supports myself. Thanks so much for sharing. Love, Pam |
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Hi Jenny, Sounds like important insights… not wanting to get out of your thoughts and finding the fear of not being clear in your writing and of being judged. Staying in my head/thoughts was a familiar avoidance tactic for me. Avoidance of the painful feelings of my fear. Now that I have more tools and awareness in distinguishing between frightened and loving parts, I am less resistant to fully feeling those frightened parts and investigating them. Most times I am able to welcome feeling them. Scheduling feeling checks (10am, noon, 2pm, 4pm, 7pm, etc,) helped me to come out of my thoughts and notice what I was feeling. Reading “The Heart of The Soul” was especially helpful in looking at my thoughts, intentions, and numerous way of running away from the experience of my emotions. I found last night as I read your most recent posting and began to respond, my words didn’t feel like they were coming from my heart. Felt like I was trying too hard and back in my head. So I decided to wait and ask my intuition what might be supportive. My words tonight are what came to me. |
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