Hello Christine,

Welcome to the forum. As Shelley correctly observed, you have come to the right place where you can find a number of videos of wisdom by Gary and Linda. Just in case you are not already familiar, click on All Teachings on the Home page and then go to View Topic List. Click on the link with the title that interests you and you will find different videos on the corresponding topic there.

However, just to help you with a brief start of concepts I would like to add a little bit here.

If I understand Gary correctly, every relationship is a karmic relationship – daughter/mother, daughter/father, sister/sister, sister/brother, wife/husband, friend/friend, etc. No specific relationship is considered a karmic relationship; each one is karmic. The idea behind such relationships is simple – to help with the spiritual growth of the given individual, which is simply discovering, challenging and changing the specific frightened parts as well as discovering and cultivating the specific loving parts that the soul decided to bring with the given individual in the given lifetime. It is a contract and commitment between the concerned souls to offer this help to each other’s personalities. In other words, whenever an interaction occurs between me and another, the fundamental question is: do I allow my frightened part to become active, or my loving part? If it is the former, then the effect, according to the law of cause and effect or the law of karma, is pain. If it is the latter, then the effect, according to the law of cause and effect or the law of karma, is joy.

Thus, whenever such a relationship ends between two given individuals, there are two possible kinds of reasons. A frightened part of one of the individuals or both involved may have caused such an end, in which case the effect is pain. Or, a loving part of one of the individuals or both involved may have caused such an end, in which case the effect is joy. Thus, it is the effect that is an indicator of the actual cause, which allows the individual(s) concerned to properly analyze the given situation and understand it and thus helps the individual to spiritually grow.

Hope this helps a little bit as a start. Please feel free to indicate if I am not clear enough anywhere. Also, more importantly, please keep in mind that it is always possible that I didn’t understand Gary correctly. So, please be willing to question what you read above.

With love and trust,
Sundar Naga

Hi Shelley,

I vividly remember our prior conversations on this specific relationship of yours.

Your writing is full of wisdom. I find it extremely powerful, as always. I personally believe that there is no further need to add any words. The statement “But I must keep reminding myself, this event may be preventing my rise of materialistic power, but if I can use this as an opportunity to discover and own and work on my issues, I will be a better person, and have a better life all around.” seems to say it all. Yes, it is just a question of that constant reminder and application of Gary’s powerful ideas. I repeat the following quote of Gary’s several times each day: My interactions form the substance of my spiritual growth since they provide me the opportunities to develop emotional awareness and to make responsible choices.

And, it is a great example of karmic relationship. To my earlier list, namely daughter/mother, daughter/father, sister/sister, sister/brother, wife/husband, friend/friend, etc., I must add colleague/colleague. It always seems to be a very important kind of karmic relationship.

Heartily wishing you all the best in your spiritual growth!

With love and trust,
Sundar