Well, I think that I need to start with an Intention to reach out to them with love. And, I’m feeling overwhelmed with approaching both of them so need to just focus on one, to begin with. I feel so stuck that I’m sitting here in tears, with a tightness in my chest, especially as I think about my son.

Hi Sundar, Thank you for sharing! I find noticing what is going on in my body so helpful in learning about myself. What are you noticing in your body right now as you share? Love… Cheryl

Hi Cheryl, for example just a little bit ago today I was sitting with a buddy of mine whom I dated before. I noticed the energy of attraction surface. In the past I would have closed my heart and created some energetic distance with him, and been distracted (in a fp) during our discussion. Instead I was able to feel the fp, become aware of it and simply choose to connect soul to soul. Because I have been challenging that fp of my personality over and over, it wasn’t even tempting. I simply noticed it and brought my focus back to connecting, listening to him and feeling open. My thoughts were of gratitude for our deep friendship since 12 years old and enjoying this time with him. Love, Kristen

Hello Everyone! I just got on because I had forgotten to watch the video first. I love this sharing experience. Thank you all! What struck me most in the video was at the end, when Gary talks about being in the illusion and yet not needing to act on it. It reminded me of a commencement speech by David Foster Wallace, “Fish in Water,” which I listened to yesterday. Illusion is like water for the fish. I don’t know I am in it because I am so immersed in it. It takes a conscious effort to recognize the illusion and act from that recognition.

The other evening I let fps of exasperation take over my consciousness for a while, when I was talking to someone close to me. Even while I was feeling the anger, I was also aware of feeling it and of feeling intense pain in my throat and my chest, aware that I was in a strong frightened part of my personality. The fp was intensely powerful, reacting to what it saw as someone trying to give me advice that I/fps didn’t need. Because I am aware of the need to create authentic power, a couple of minutes later, I was able to challenge that frightened part and come from love (a more peaceful place in me that wanted to create harmony), and we were able to communicate. I still felt the pain but I didn’t act on it any longer. I am still impressed by how powerful that fp is. The loving parts of my personality are grateful for this opportunity to become more aware.

Hi DianeS, would you consider sitting with your feelings and understanding you and why you are feeling this way and what about it is familiar from the past in situations similar and not similar but they bring up the same feelings- reaching inside before reaching outside of you.

Diane, recently my 27 year old son did something that triggered a big FP in me. Honestly what he did had nothing to do with me but I felt so much anger. I felt it in my heart, a great tightness. My head said that it is his life and he has to learn from his actions but something else in me, a FP, wanted to tell my son just how much he messed up. Like somehow making him feel judged and condemned was going to help him or me. I too felt a little stuck….tried to just not think about it so as not to feel the pain or anger. In my case after some reflection I felt I began to see why I was feeling angry with him for his mistake. I felt I was somehow putting myself in his shoes as though I had acted as he acted, I was the one in the mess and I caused it. I can’t say I have all the understanding about why I was seeing it that way but what I did next changed everything. I sort of created my own illusion or vision. I visualized my son taking a persons hand and placing it on his heart and saying to them, feel my life. And I saw him take another persons hand and placing it on the side of his face and saying to them feel my love. And with the 3rd person he put their hands in his so they were facing each other looking over their joined praying hands, and he said like into my eyes, not at my eyes, and see my soul. He said my soul is loving, it is kind, it is patient. And then my daydream vision ended. I was in tears at this vision but my anger with my son was gone, my putting myself in his situation was gone. From that moment on I was at peace with that life school lesson. Very sureal but very effective…..seeing him as a loving caring soul melted any distance I felt.

Diane, welcome and thank you for sharing. It sounds like you are feeling a strong frightened part of your personality. With respect to your son in particular, would you like to describe what you feel in your body and the thoughts that come up? I have a similar situation with my daughter. Lots of core frightened parts get activated. I have been challenging them for a long time, yet they are still powerful.