Hi Gail, Banford and Soula, I just watched Gary and Linda on Super Soul Sunday, after watching the original show a few years ago, and I found so much food for thought. I love being reminded of what it means to truly create authentic power. The discussion about intention was so powerful. I’ll say more in a minute.

Gary mentioned how when one is not aware of one’s intention, one is creating with fear. I recognize this in me. I often forget to check my intention. For instance, in the midst of an argument with my husband, I forget to take that little breath that will enable me to check my intention and change it from fear to love so that I can pull out of the argument.

Since I’m talking about awareness, or the lack of awareness, in my relationship with my husband, I want to share that I watched with him a part of the conversation between Gary and Oprah today, with the intention to be closer to him and to talk about our relationship as a spiritual relationship. We were able to get closer to each other by sharing at a deeper level than usual. This moment gave us the opportunity to reaffirm the reasons for being together. I felt the truth of what Gary said in the show, “in this relationship we are going to grow ourselves forward.” It’s so beautiful when I become aware of this intention in my relationship and that my husband shares it with me. Feeling grateful.

When Oprah asked Gary and Linda if they ever argue, and how it is different in a spiritual partnership, Linda mentioned that they “catch themselves”, and see that a frightened part (FP) of their personality is active, and challenge it more quickly than before. I see this in myself. Before I read The Seat of the Soul, I blamed Terri (my wife) when she triggered one of my FPs, so I was blind to the fact that I was responsible for the FP that is angry.
Now, even when I unconsciously react to her, I “catch myself” more quickly and realize that I have allowed a FP to control me, and I acknowledge that and start responding from a loving part instead.

Thank you for sharing, Soula. I appreciate how you are learning about yourself and would love to read an example of what you just described.

Hi Catherine,

That is amazing that you were able to do that with your husband. When you say you were able to get closer by sharing at a deeper level can you clarify how you were able to do that. It sounds like you were are creating a spiritual partnership!

Sure Catherine,

Recently at work I have been feeling distant from a collegue that arranged a luncheon at the office and I was not invited. I had been challenging this fp with this collegue for some time and I thought (my fp thought) that we were becoming closer. This particular event shocked this fp a lot that felt used, unloved, not belonging and could never be loved as myself. I felt very lonely and decided to go deeper in feeling this strong and familiar fp. I had to challenge fp thoughts of resentment, jealousy and anger for this person as I knew that they are what I need to heal in this life time. The more I was able to feel this pain the less control the thoughts had over me. In addition I had several temptations to please this collegue, small talk in the elevator and pretend that nothing was wrong…. a life long pattern. But I frustrated this need by not acting on this need to please and I know that this has been another step toward breaking down the walls of these fps.

Thank you Catherine for asking and giving me the opportunity to challenge fps that feel ugly and fear being vulnerable.

Much love, Soula.