I have a very close friend of 25 years. She and I both have been single for several years and have always had each other to vent to and fall back on. She has recently developed a “fall-in-love” relationship with a nice man. I am happy for her. Truly. But there is this jealousy in me that I want so bad to be rid of. I don’t like it, and I consciously work on it. But it’s still there. I miss our close friendship. We are at different places spiritually, but that has never mattered. We were always extremely close. Just thought I would post this and see if anyone has any suggestions or has felt the same way.
Marilyn

Thank you, Eric. I am afraid that this is exactly what I am supposed to learn — how to be content and happy by myself. And I am kicking and screaming the whole way. I don’t want to learn that. Shall I say, my personality doesn’t want to learn that??? I, too, miss the feeling of loving. Now that I’m studying this and exploring my soul, I wonder if I was loving in order to be loved. Does that make sense?? Is that wrong and selfish and negative??? Are we supposed to ignore the fact that we want to be loved? I think it’s probably a long process. I feel changes already, but I’m not there yet by a long shot. You are right, living it is the hard part.
I hope you find what you seek and learn the lessons you are meant to learn (without much “personality” pain).
Love to you, Marilyn

Hi Eric,

Your words give me hope. I wish the same for you.
Marilyn

I so relate to your post Marilyn. I’m having to look at my ‘intentions’ of being loving, kind, doing nice things etc… and if I have a secondary agenda of wanting to be accepted and loved. In being honest with myself I have to say that I have had that secondary agenda alot of the times. Ouch!
Learning to be content and happy ourselves is not as easy as it seems. My thoughts are with you as you go through the process – we are worth love, and worth loving – even loving ourselves! =)

Hi Marilyn,

If I had won the lottery, I too would spend alot on the animal world! I feel we love the animals
so much for they are such mirrors for the love we crave..they love unconditionally and live in
the moment. To me, they seem more aligned to their soul..they don’t seem to have that fear based
personality unless humans have beat them or were wounded in some way.

My sister the other day used the phrase “2012 is about thinking with your heart”. I too feel I
want to figure everything out. But perhaps if we chose a more loving “picture” each time we feel
a fear (and let that fear go down the river Pg l09 in The HEART OF THE SOUL,) eventually the love
feelings and thoughts override our fears. I’m seeing within myself that what I thought was love
in my past relationships was need and security. I thought we “loved” each other deeply. But
to me, I feel so few have ever experienced true love – that Divine love that we are craving for.
Like Christ said, The kingdom of heaven is WITHIN, so once we master our fears, our ego, only
then will we find the love that is beyond words. Gary and Linda and also for me, Dr. Wayne Dyer,
are mirrors that give me hope that when we own our “stuff”, we will have a deep loving
relationship with ourselves, a partner if we choose and the world. Did any of you see the movie,
THE SHIFT on Oprah’s SUPER SOUL SUNDAY last week? It was great.

Nameste,

Christina

A few women here where I live will be getting together to read the Seat of the Soul. I’m looking for others’ input. My close friend asked to have this group and she and I talk about all different types of things. But yesterday she seemed on the defensive and I didn’t put my finger on that immediately but only that she was forceful in her opinion so I choose to (was that a withdrawal?)cut the phone conversation short by telling her I had to get lunch ready for my husband. This allowed that converstion to “cool down”, from my point of view. I called her back a couple of hours later and it was a much better conversation. I’m only on class 5 and the meditation seemed time for me to think about that conversation. Was what I saw in her “the defensive” really my own part? Well am I on the right track?

• This reply was modified 12 years, 5 months ago by Mary Beth.

Hi – I have enjoyed reading everyone’s posts on this subject and must comment that I find relationship dynamics and experiences in general to be both challengng and rewarding. From what I can see from both Eric and Mary Beth, it appears that you two both challenged frightened parts of your personalities that may have wanted to respond to your friends from a fearful standpoint and chose to wait to do anything about each situation until you were clear about your intentions and how you wanted to respond. I feel that shows that you used the Spiritual Partnership Guidelines in a loving way and that this is what authentic power is all about!

I was once in the Authentic Power Program and the Expanded Program through the Seat of the Soul Institute and have valued the spiritual partnerships that I have made in these programs and the other public retreats that Gary and Linda give. I am happy that I can work on being spiritual partners with such wonderful people. However, I still find it difficult to broach the subject of spiritual partnership with my friends. For example, I have a friend at work who is going through a difficult time because she was assigned to work for an additional boss and she is overwhelmed. I have given her suggestions as to how she may be able to relieve the stress she is undergoing, but have not broached what is happening with her from a spiritual viewpoint. I don’t want to caretake her either. It has helped me to write this because I feel an answer may be coming to me about how I can talk to her using the Spiritual Partnership Guidelines. She knows that I go to these retreats and I think I may just talk to her about how I would talk to her about it if she was a spiritual buddy and see how she reacts/responds! I welcome any other suggestions/guidance!