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Topic: Integrity - Cindy Started 9 years, 9 months ago
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Posted 10 years ago
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I am grateful for Saturday’s call on Integrity and will be revisiting it when it has been posted to the website. I am grateful for the break-out session as well. I have been considering what it means to consider the difference between a multi-sensory response of integrity vs a five sensory response of integrity. I am grateful to have listened to others share of their multi-sensory responses of integrity. |
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Hi Cindy, I had a wonderful experience, myself. Were we in the small group together? I really enjoyed the sharing and the talking after. I appreciate you reminding me to consider the difference between multi-sensory integrity and five sensory. Very powerful! |
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Posted 10 years ago
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Hi Sara, Yes, I think that we were in the small group together on Saturday’s call. I had to leave before our discussion had ended. We had been discussing diplomacy. I had some thoughts on that after leaving the call. I wonder, (and would welcome yours and others thoughts on this), if diplomacy would be considered to be a pursuit of external power as it may be pursuing to keep everyone comfortable. From what I’ve learned through this program and its books, the pursuit of authentic power is about saying from love, (and having the courage to do so), what needs to be said, or not saying what would not be coming from love. It seems to me that diplomacy may not be about that. It’s great to hear from you! |
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Posted 10 years ago
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Hi Cindy, I agree, if the intention is to manipulate or control, it’s external power. I do think if the intention is to create authentic power in a situation, it could potentially look like diplomacy if that’s the inspired course of action, but it always depends on the energy flowing underneath. I don’t think diplomacy in and of itself is about creating authentic power. Inherently it’s about strategy, as far as I can tell. It’s funny, I realized something along these lines one morning when I was helping my kids get ready for school. I was asking them very nicely to make their beds. And it hit me after the words came out, this was not about being supportive and present, this was an attempt to control them. Even though it looked and sounded very pleasant and nice, I was, on the inside, hoping that my asking them nicely would prompt them to do what I asked. I was not genuinely concerned with creating authentic power, in that moment. It was amazing to realize that, because it helped me understand, on a deeper level, that being nice is not the point when it comes to authentic power. It’s about so much more than that. This has taken some time for me. When I am being present and intending to come from love, I don’t care if my kids do what I ask, I’m just happy to be with them. Lots of great stuff to play with here! |
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Thanks for sharing that Sara. It has been and continues to be a powerful practice for me in learning about my intentions as I play my roles of mother at home and boss at work. For example with my teenagers I often have fps that are attached to wanting them to do something. They swing from inferior, “oh why bother they are not going to listen anyway” to superior, “I will withhold the allowance if they don’t…” When I am conscious, my action becomes about me, and being in my integrity in that moment. For eg. I will shift my intention to gratitude and appreciation as I give the instruction and after. Love, |
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Soula, I love how you said, “When I am conscious, my action becomes about me, and being in my integrity in that moment.” That is so well put. I never thought of it in the way of swinging from inferiority to superiority, and hearing it like that really resonates with me. I’m going to experiment with this more. Much Love, |
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I really appreciate the comments from you two mothers. It’s great to read of your ways of parenting with creating authentic power as your intention. This causes me to reflect on my own relationships with my now grown children and the choices of intention that I can make to bring Love into our interactions. Thank you so much for sharing! |
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