Shelley,

Thank you for sharing the experiences so vividly.

You said: “I am asking myself, do you want to try something different, S? Do you want to use this experience to learn something about yourself, to change yourself, to create a new way to react. The answer is yes.”

That is definitely the right starting point.

“What next?”

According to Gary, the spiritual growth is defined as: Identifying, challenging and changing each frightened part (fp), and identifying and cultivating each loving part (lp) that your soul decided to bring with you in this lifetime.

As per your narration, you have identified an fp as one that judges. And, you have decided to challenge it also (by answering your questions with yes).

Now, the Universe (more specifically, your soul and certain other relevant souls in your ‘soul group’) is going to keep offering you opportunities one after another (similar to the one you describe in your narration). What is expected of you is to attempt to respond to each such opportunity in love and trust by using an appropriate lp instead of reacting in fear and doubt by using the fp that has become active. In other words, you feel the fp, but not allow it to do what it wants to; instead, you look for an appropriate lp in you and make it become active in the given situation. Instead of “tearing [your friend] apart”, you “stayed silent for 24 hrs”. That is a step in the right direction. Next time when a similar opportunity arises, you might want to go a step further and attempt to exercise an lp in the given situation.

It could be (rather would be) very hard initially to respond in love and trust, and could even be a total failure. But, the important thing is that it does not matter. The idea is to keep trying. After every opportunity given to you by the Universe to challenge your fp, you evaluate what you did during that opportunity and tell yourself repeatedly what you should do before the next opportunity arises -‘repeatedly’ because it is so hard to remember it at the time the fp becomes active. The goal is to get better and better during each opportunity, keeping in mind that it is okay if the level stays the same or even gets worse. You just have to keep challenging the given fp that you have decided to work on (with your ‘yes’ answer to your questions) and keep replacing it more and more with a corresponding lp. As a result, the fp gradually loses more and more power. After enough amount of effort is taken, it is supposed to completely lose its power eventually. Exercising the lp becomes automatic. That is the name of the game!

Hope this helps a little. I am sure other spiritual partners will shed more light.

If I am not clear enough anywhere, please let me know. I will try to offer more clarification.

With love and trust,
Sundar Naga

Shelley,

With joy. No problem.

You are right. I assume many of us don’t like it the way it is. However, one technique that is often considered helpful in understanding why something is the way it is is to imagine the consequences of its being some other way or, even better, the opposite way. For example, what would it be like if Nature did not obey the first law and/or the second law of thermo?

So, how would the world be, how would our lives be if the fp’s did not exist at all in the Grand Design of Divine Intelligence or when they do exist, if it was pretty easy for us to identify, challenge and change them and to identify and cultivate the lp’s?

A corresponding answer happens to have the immense power of motivating each of us into smartly deciding something like: As expected by Divine Intelligence, let me rather identify, challenge and change the fp’s and identify and cultivate the lp’s as QUICKLY as I can with a complete trust in the wise and loving Universe.

Incidentally, according to Gary, the three Universal spiritual laws that govern everything regarding spiritual growth are:
1. The law of creation: I create my life experiences through my own intentions – intentions of love or fear.
2. The law of karma or cause and effect: There are only causes and effects (there are no right and wrong or good and bad). If the cause is an intention of love, the effect is joy. If the cause is an intention of fear, the effect is pain.
3. The law of attraction: Like intentions attract, no matter what the out-tentions might be.

What would it be like if those laws did not exist?

With love and trust,
Sundar Naga

Hello Steve,

I am not surprised. Here it goes again. I believe you know that the soul’s intentions are: harmony, cooperation, sharing and reverence for Life. My intention in answering Shelley’s critical question of what next was one of these which I assume you will be able to figure when your lp’s are active.

With the experience of space in between the trapeze bars, what would your response be to Shelley’s important question? Please share.

With love and trust,
Sundar

Hello Shelly,

Thank you so much for sharing and being courageous in going deeper on your spiritual journey. When I read the Seat of the Soul for the first time, I knew my life would never be the same. Its message was something I had been longing for so long. I then chose to be on this discovery journey and ultimately committed to my spiritual growth no matter what without knowing the depth of what this experience was going to be. It has literally transformed my life in every way. One of the most helpful tool for me was to read the Heart of the Soul. I was understanding what emotional awareness meant but it took me a full year to just be with it and start to feel the sensations in my body, I had no idea! Last summer at the Journey, I had my spiritual partners identify a very familiar FP that was addicted to sex which meant taking advantage of weaker Souls to me. A spiritual partner suggested that I read and re-read the section on addiction in the Seat of the Soul which I did and found it very helpful. It might also be supportive to you in regards to your addiction to food. I am so grateful for these spiritual partners as they see things that I sometimes don’t see myself. It might be supportive for you to read again the Seat of the Soul and benefit from the new exercises in the new version as well as re-reading the Heart of the Soul and be with that for a while. Gary often mentions to be gentle with yourself as this is not easy work!!! 🙂

With Love,
Steve

Just noticed a typo in my above post. The live call on spiritual partnership was on June 11, not June 6.

Also, I notice that I didn’t paraphrase clearly enough what I remarked to Gary and Linda during that live call. One should be really careful with respect to suggesting to a spiritual partner the possibility of an fp being active, etc. in the latter. Instead of just saying so and leaving it at that, the former should be able to explain clearly enough why he or she thinks so. In that sense there appears to be a big responsibility involved, and it is not a joke and should not be taken lightly. During her response Linda pointed out that when one suggests so to a spiritual partner, it could as well be due to an fp being active in the former, not necessarily in the latter. So, the solution is for the former to explain clearly enough why he or she thinks so. If there seems to be any flaw in the logic involved in the explanation, then both can analyze it further. Otherwise, there is no such opportunity. It can happen that the latter is simply misled into thinking there was an fp active, while it might not indeed be the case. It is a scary situation.

With love and trust,
Sundar