Hi Stephanie, do you know the intention of the frightened part that is attached to feeling like a victim? With love, Rosalind

Hi Stephanie, I appreciate your looking deeper and sharing your response to Rosalind’s question. It gave me clarity as to my victim frightened part. It creates a crisis in me to get attention. It hasn’t worked for me for the last five years in my new relationship. My new husband doesn’t get triggered by my frightened part victim so it doesn’t get me attention. I also don’t feel in the past when it worked to get attention from my former husband that it didn’t get me love either. I feel it actually brought disharmony to our relationship. I am feeling burning in my heart and throbbing in my throat as I am re-experiencing this frightened part and how it controlled my life for so many years. What is coming up for me as I am writing this is as a child my father would always tell me “no” when I asked for something or do something with my friends. I learned that if I went into a victim role and go into my bedroom and cry (manipulation), that I would get my way. I am seeing that is one of the ways I learned to manipulate in my first marriage also. I have gratitude for our sharing as I have discovered the power I gave to these (victim and manipulation) frightened parts of my personality.

In gratitude, Carol Ann

Kathy, your reminder about seeing anyone who triggers my fps as “a beautiful soul who is equal to me in all ways” is so supportive — it is a powerful intention for me to set. Thank you for sharing it.