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Topic: Dealing with fear - Barbara L Started 6 years, 5 months ago

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Barbara L
Posted 6 years ago

I’ve been struggling with uncertainty about the future at work that is triggering intense feelings of fear. I was been drawn back to the Seat of the Soul book and through that saw the invitation to this website. It couldn’t have come at more opportune time. Thank you.
Shelley P
Posted 6 years ago

Hi Barbara,

Welcome to the Lifeschool community. What an apt name, don’t you think.—the school to learn how to deal with life!

And isn’t life also wonderful, if you listen, watch, the teacher is there. In this case, Gary’s book, which looks like you have read before, and which beckoned you again when the time was right! Check out “the Heart of the Soul” also, for practical guidance on how Anger, Grief, Fear…work to prevent us from living our best life.

Right now, these are things from Gary’s books loosely paraphrased that I am working on. Perhaps they might resonate with you:

When you have a strong emotional reaction, ask yourself:
If you knew the emotion is a message from your soul, what would you do differently, would you still argue, intellectualize, shout, fight, argue to win the point (or flee, hide, suffer silently… if that is your usual reaction), so you win this fight, but lose the war (lesson you need to learn)?

Or would you try to listen to the emotion and decipher the message? Would you try to understand the hurt, pain, fear? What I am doing is sitting and feeling my feeling (a big challenge for me, as I am a do-er bee, not a feeler). And I let the thoughts pass through, without reacting. Amazingly, I get answers about when something like this happened before, what is my role in all this…,

And just occasionally, I get insight into how to act, rather than react— like I recently shared my insights with the messenger (the soul partner who was teaching me the lesson) in a way that was safe for him, so he could hear.

What I am learning is that in any situation, you find the most loving thing you can do, for yourself, or for/to the other person. You put your best player forward. For me, speaking up, asking for what i need, rather than blaming, shaming gaming the other person is putting my best player forward.

Hope this is some help. But keep reading, keep listening… the only way out is through, so, enter this beautiful journey!

Love,
Shelley
Barbara L
Posted 6 years ago

Thank you Shelly for your thoughtful reply. Thank you for the book recommendation and for taking the time to share your process – it does resonate. I like the image of putting your “best player forward” and appreciate the reminder that the only way out is through – even if that feels extremely challenging at times. This is really good work, the only work really, worth doing from my POV. Ignore or embrace, the lessons will keep coming, and after so many years of pain and struggle, I’d prefer to be a consious co-creator. I don’t know who said this first but I really like it: “I haven’t come this far to have only come this far.” Very grateful for this website to be able to resource any time. I’m in, and look forward to the journey with people like yourself. Thanks again for reaching out. Much appreciated. Love, Barbara
Barbara L
Posted 6 years ago

Oops, Shelley with an “ey.” Got it. ❤️
Abigail H
Posted 6 years ago

I have never heard the quote”I have not come this far to have only come this far.” I love that. This is my first day in the life school. I am interested in finding others to discuss this process of spiritual growth with as I work towards my own spiritual self mastery.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 6 months ago by Abigail H.
Lori S
Posted 5 years ago

Abagail
I know it has been 3 months since your post. But I wanted to reach out to say I am also looking to connect and share with others about this journey— in order to feel connected and supported. .
Looking at my frightened parts in this way: with the authentic power guidelines is two things for me:
1. Noticeably helpful. And 2. Kind of terrifying
Kind regards,
Lori
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