Hi Eric,

I have enjoyed reading the postings that you and Soula shared. I have had those very same frightened parts come up in me most frequently when we have my husbands side of the family over for dinner. I had just that very opportunity(of those fps becoming active) when we celebrated my husband’s B.D. last w/e. His 2 children and our 3 grand children pluse sister in law were with us for 3 days.

I have been challenging these frightened parts of my personality for quite some time now, and like you, I have experimented with asking for help/not asking for help (and looking at my intention for asking), and when I asked without attachment to outcome, I received the help….What was so great about that was that I truly did not care if I received help or not…the challenge for me was to ASK FOR HELP.

I also experimented with sitting at the dinner table and staying engaged in the conversation, instead of clearing the table and putting away food right after the meal. This too was very painful for me….to NOT TO CLEAR THR TABLE AND ACTUALLY GET INTERESTED IN THE CONVERSATION…and again, it truly did not matter to me if someone else started clearing the table or not….I was doing the work of challenging my frightened parts that feel more comfortable being busy and do not want to connect (so my fps can blame them and make them wrong!). I found this facinating to me. I sat at the table for 20 or more minutes….and enjoyed myself. When I was ready, I began to clear the table…and no one helped me…and I was perfectly OK with that…I was not attached. The next morning,I noticed the breakfast table was set and someone else was preparing breakfast. They asked me to sit down and have some coffee…they wanted to make breakfast. I beleive it was because, like you Eric, my energy had a very different quality to it…I was not sending negetive energy by judging, blaming, feeling victized and angry.

This was a great experiment/experience and I learned so much about myself….I felt very connected to everyone who joined us that w/e. I received a text from my husband’s son after the w/e saying how much he enjoyed the w/e and thanked me for organizing such a greeat w/e for his Dad’s b.d. What a gift! (even w/o the text message…the whole experience was truly a blessing to me).
Thanks for the reminder. Love, Gail

Hi all, I am grateful to read all of these experiences which began with Eric’s post. This past week I had an experiment with letting go of attachment to the outcome which involved a returned clothing item to a mail order company. A few weeks ago I was preparing to send back several items to this company and I knew that one of the items could be credited back to a now non existent credit card number. It had been a holiday gift for a daughter’s boyfriend but had not fit him well. I called the company and they told me to indicate that the credit for this one item should be requested to be given as a gift card. So I did this in writing on the return form but when I called a couple of weeks later, I found that my notation had been overlooked and the credit had not occurred as I requested. So I called and discussed it with the phone representatives and they were to get back with me. About a week later, after which I had been really trying to apply the tools of creating authentic power, I decided to call them again as I had not received any word back. The item had been purchased by myself but on a credit card which had had my former spouse as primary at the time of the purchase. When we separated, we each requested new numbers for our cards that we carried. So I was having difficulty in getting the credit back to myself. When I called them back the second time, I really tried to be in the present moment and let go of the outcome as to whom would receive the credit and wanting the best outcome for everyone, including the representative who answered my call and the company itself. I found that by doing this, I was very evenly calm and clear with my speech and in the end it became a clear situation for the representative and she was able to take care of the processing in a different way and she was comfortable with doing that and said that she would be sending the gift card to me. I told her that if anything should come up that she needed to contact me back about the situation, to please do so. It is exciting to see how well communications occur when applying these principles. When I got off the call, I reminded myself that just because I did receive the credit, that in all my circumstance I must never apply these principles just to get what I want, but to always be fully intending for what is best for all concerned. I found it very supportive to read about everyone’s experiments when challenging FPs during family get–togethers. I want to refer back to these and experiment in these ways with my own family as well. I have been experiencing deeper connects with people these past few weeks as I have been trying to apply these tools of creating authentic power most of the time. The past two or three days however, I have not focused as much on emotional awareness and connecting my thoughts with what I am feeling. I have to finish an intense course I’m enrolled in a week before the scheduled time as I am planning to come to the Journey Event later this month, and there is much work to do before I leave. I find that when I am doing this course work that I get distracted when I try to focus inwardly at the same time. I would be interested to hear how others are able to do this while reading or studying and how this goes for them. I must work better at emotional awareness at least when I am not studying. I don’t want to get too far from this regular practice especially now when it is really so new to me to put this to regular practice. I hope to continue as much as I can before the Event so that I can be a contributor to the joy and learning which we will participate in there. Thank you all for your posts! Love, Cindy