Although I’ve done quite a bit of work in this area of challenging the “need to be liked” which is in the same vein as “wanting to please” I still have many experiences that trigger this “need to be liked.” The Super of my complex was supposed to arrange for my heating to be fixed for the past week and it has not been done, and today he did not answer my calls when I called him about it. In the grand scheme of things I know this is not a big issue, because it’s not even winter yet, but it is a big issue in the sense that it triggers my “need to be liked.” When I assert my needs, although I am able to do it verbally, on the inside I feel like “I’m being too harsh or “bad” and that I will not be liked or that in some way I will suffer negative consequences for asserting myself. I feel these sensations in my throat and in my head. Writing about it just helped center me so I could feel the sensations in my body and listen to my intuition.